So, you want to visit a Dominatrix…
In other blogs, I have touched on the why and the how – this one will raise a few questions on the when.
As you will no doubt notice, many Dominas do not take same day appointments, so how can you schedule a visit and why do you choose the time you do?
As with everything, there are a multitude of reasons for a particular choice, first and foremost the deciding factor will obviously be when the Domina you wish to visit is available. I personally do accept same day appointments, but only if it is practical for me to do so. Some people are under the impression that professional dominants sit around in latex all day waiting for the phone to ring… For some establishments this may be true, those that offer a revolving door policy for example, and if your wish is simply to be dominated at the drop of a hat and you aren’t particularly interested in who you see, then this is the kind of place for you.
If you wish to have a more specific experience, with a particular dominant who encapsulates everything you wish for in a practitioner, then as with all things of quality there is an element of compromise. Just because you are in the mood, does not mean that the world of that dominant stops spinning the moment they answer the telephone to you. So you have to be practical, and manage your time like a grown up! However, there is another element to consider – mindset.
What do I mean by mindset? Well, in this instance, I mean the part of you that drives you to want to session. And this is where I choose to use my intuition, and be understanding. It needs to be accepted that there are a few factors leading up to that ‘heart in your throat’ first knock at my door. For some, when they visit is purely decided by circumstance i.e. when they can take time from work, fit in with a family schedule, or travel from abroad or within the UK.
Some have the luxury of being able to choose their appointment time for other reasons. Some like to book weeks, or even months in advance, and feel a thrill when they look at the little ‘x’ on the calendar as the visit draws nearer, and as the excitement and trepidation grow each day. For others, the thrill of spontaneity is a key factor. ‘I have to do it and soon!!’ like being at the foot of the diving board ladder and deciding that today is the day that you are going to ascend and jump. Which is great, as long as the pool is open! This is why I accept same day appointments when I can, because I understand that some people simply have to go for it when it feels right and they have the confidence to do so – I do not expect everyone to have the same mindset.
Another important factor to consider is the time immediately after your session. Do remember you may leave feeling a little different to when you arrived! Prepare for this, and ensure you have scheduled enough time for yourself to come ‘back down to earth’ before you get on with your day.
But, bear in mind that while you are indeed paying for a service, this is a very specialized service if done right, so is not something you can simply ‘buy and fly’ at the click of a finger. I do the finger clicking…
So in summary, if you are choosing someone to session with (and hoping you are accepted by them), do remember that your call or email does not make you the only person in the world at that instant. Be patient, and be prepared to compromise. The things you sometimes have to wait for are often those most worth waiting for…