Chastity control is an area in which I have a keen interest. However, I find that for as many slaves and subs that do like it, just as many find it a total no go area. Some of my visitors voluntarily keep themselves chaste before a session in order (I assume) to heighten their sexual submissiveness and the feelings of power exchange and control. Some enjoy being locked into a chastity device during the session and perhaps leaving wearing one, for it to be removed under my instructions a week or more later. For some the thought of it during the actual session is more than enough, and temporarily forgotten once back home and in the vanilla world, but for the occasional few it is more of a lifestyle choice.
One submissive of mine in particular has been on a chastity ‘journey’ since January this year, when we decided that he was to refrain from masturbation for the foreseeable future. He was perfectly willing to try this as it is something he had done previously and he found that it made him feel more submissive, and I was obviously more than happy as I enjoy taking control of someone’s all important sexuality. A device wasn’t fitted at the time as there were a couple of reasons why this wasn’t practical at that point, however this was always the aim for the future. So, chastity commenced on the basis of trust and psychological distance control, with intermittent visits and weekly emails to advise me that he was still chaste and how this was effecting him. Over the next few months he advised me that he was occasionally having erotic dreams which would wake him up when he found himself masturbating furiously in his sleep! But (and I do believe him) he refrained from continuing as the feelings he had from being controlled and giving the power of his release and his sexuality over to me, were far stronger and more important than a quick orgasm. Obviously he was still able to achieve an erection as this was totally
out of his control, however as time progressed he found his erections waning and becoming far more infrequent – he was almost becoming ‘sexless’.
A couple of months ago a device was purchased – the Birdlock 2nd Skin, made of surgical silicone and anatomically designed for both comfort and discretion – and then a month later the fitting took place, the padlock was secured and I put the key in a safe place. Since then occasional erections have continued but are met with pain due to the device preventing them, making the denial one of both mental and physical suffering. He is obviously unable to touch or even see his manhood properly now, and apart from urination and cleaning it may as well not exist! I am told that he is often very frustrated but knows that this is the level of control that I demand and desire, and is in turn grateful to me for allowing him to suffer for my amusement. I forgot to add earlier that as well as the feelings of control – which is obviously a huge element – I do get great amusement knowing that he is being willingly turned into a virtual eunuch in order to please me and show his level of submission. This device will remain locked for the foreseeable future – I have no intention to instruct its removal, and I know without even asking that although often frustrated he has no desire to have it removed…not until I decide.
As I said at the start of this blog, chastity control is not for everyone but for for some it is a huge element of their life. I do feel that many also like the idea but the reality or practicalities of wearing a device 24/7 are simply not possible for them, or they are tentatively experimenting by trying a few days at a time. The image here was taken immediately after the locking and I was amused to find that when I tweeted the pic it received more ‘likes’ than many pics of me wearing latex or lingerie! So either there is a lot of interest in chastity or some of you would sooner see a chap’s caged genitals than my stockings…I think (hope) it’s the former!